Seeping grief

You, Me and Other People Fionnuala Kearney

Grief, grief, and a bit more grief.  This really shouldn’t be a good read, yet its wonderful.  Its a book all about relationships and the grieving process.  At the heart of the story is Beth and Adam’s marriage,  Adam’s dim choices has left their marriage in tatters.

Whilst Beth starts to move forward and grieve for her twenty year marriage, Adam is unable to.  And slowly, his wider issues reveal themselves and it becomes clear that Adam has more to deal with and to grieve for.  His inability to grieve and face his demons drove his unwise choices.

Its hard to forgive lies and secrets in a marriage, of course it is.  Yet, Adam has perhaps inadvertently, taken on a great deal, he copes by hiding behind secrets (and their subsequent lies).  Once he starts is it that he can’t stop lying and hiding?  Or is it that seems so easy?  Or has he become addicted to his web of secrets and lies – like a comfort blanket?  After all, as an adult he agreed to keep one huge secret.

What intrigued me the most was Beth’s view that Adam was all about drama.  Hard as it sounds, she’s right in trying to hide his history Adam created drama time after time.  Yet, she lived with him for twenty years and never saw what he hid.

Of course, I don’t want to add in any spoilers, but Adam’s biggest grief is his missed opportunity – he missed out on what should have been the most wondrous relationship just as he was offered a glimpse.  Its a real tragedy.

Totally recommended, I think book clubs will find a lot to talk about – I’ve barely scratched the surface.

Thank you netgalley for an ARC of this book in return for an honest review.

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